Emerald Heart Elder and Teacher, Sephora McElroy, shares with the Blog a simple technique that in this stressful world we live in, can make interaction with others a much deeper and more satisfying experience.
Are you a person who has ease of contact with others, or do you have difficulties? If you have difficulties, why is this? When I speak about contact I don’t mean a brief chat or small talk. I am speaking about truly being in contact with someone else, being really connected to them.
We are nowhere really
I find that often life is so busy, we get very stressed about organising things, being here – going there, but we are nowhere really. We are not truly present in situations or in our contact with others. We are physically there but not with an open heart and mind, not connected. We are in our own tunnel. We think of what happened to us yesterday or what we have to do tomorrow, but we are so seldom with our thoughts in the here and now. We don’t make time for the now, for the situation we are in in this moment or for the other person we are talking to in this moment. This causes problems for ourselves and with others, causing endless misunderstandings along the way.
Check yourself every minute a day
Even though I recognise this, it is still not easy for me to do better. But when I see that I’m heading in the wrong direction, I try to hold on for a second and rethink my thoughts and actions. That’s why it’s so important to hold on for a little second and check yourself every minute of the day. Ask yourself: “Where am I at at this moment?” What are my thoughts doing? Am I in the present moment; am I with this other person completely? And if not, don’t get angry with yourself, just try to do better next time and little by little it will become a new habit. A better habit and you will feel much less stressed and more connected with yourself, with nature and with other people.
I wish you all the best for this journey.
With all my Love and Blessings,
Elder of the Emerald Heart School of Enlightenment